Sexual Fulfillment for Both Men and Women
In my practice, I’ve sat with many couples on the brink of separation, ready to let lawyers untangle the knots of their intertwined lives. It’s a heart-wrenching moment that’s all too common. But why? Why do connections that start with so much hope often end in such turmoil?
There are truly wonderful men and women out there—full of kindness, love, and genuine affection. So, why is it that some men stray, and some women feel compelled to wage war over every shared memory and asset?
Through my work with constellation therapy and guiding couples through the painstaking process of uncoupling toxic relationships, I’ve learned that these issues are deeply rooted, echoing age-old narratives that have been passed down through generations. These narratives often speak of what some traditions describe as “curses”—for a woman to cling to a man, and for a man to labor endlessly.
But why view these roles as curses? They symbolize the deep-seated polarities between masculine and feminine energies that often lead to misunderstanding and conflict. In today’s world, these ancient patterns can trigger our primal instincts—those raw, immediate reactions that thrust us onto an endless cycle of conflict, like a dog endlessly chasing its tail.
Men, often socialized to conquer and expand, might view commitment as a loss of freedom, a finality that stifles their innate urge to explore and build. This fear can manifest as either an aversion to commitment or a pursuit of it as a means to fill an inner void—an emptiness that truly can only be filled through self-awareness and personal growth.
Women, traditionally encouraged to seek security and permanence, might interpret men’s hesitance as a threat to their emotional and financial stability, which can lead them to fiercely protect what they feel they’re owed when promises and commitments begin to crumble.
There is, however, a more enlightened path available to us—one that calls for awareness and stepping away from these ancient cycles of suffering. It requires recognizing these destructive patterns and understanding that our higher selves can pause, reflect, and choose to respond from a place of love and wisdom, rather than from survival and fear.
This journey is not about placing blame but about understanding dynamics and transforming them. It’s about stopping the legacy of pain and misunderstanding from perpetuating through yet another generation.
If you find this intriguing, stick with me. Life is more than a series of repeated patterns and failed relationships, culminating in the abandonment of our hopes for a love that’s deep and unconditional. Let’s discover how to break free from these cycles, heal our relationships, and embrace a love that is nurturing, respectful, and sustaining.
Namaste,
Shauna Lynn
Relationship Mentor and Shadow Expert
“When you say to a woman or a man, “I love you,” you are simply saying, “I cannot be deceived by your body, I have seen you. Your body may become old but I have seen you, the bodiless you. I have seen your innermost core, the core that is divine.” Liking is superficial. Love penetrates and goes to the very core of the person, touches the very soul of the person.”
― Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: On Relationships, Sex, Meditation, and Silence
Divorce had also been an event in my family lineage for two generations. After I addressed and cleared it during a family constellation, my husband invited me back into his life after living separately for a few years. There seemed to be so many layers that I was burdened by and that created walls of separation between myself and family members. After constellations my relationships are healing and improving often effortlessly. -YM
